Several years ago I was sitting with her in a Dallas, TX coffeehouse (we were both in town speaking at different Churches) drinking a strong cup of decaf when I heard her talked about her friendationship. She went on to say you know, Christian friends with or without benefits depending on how you define it. This does not mean that every person that you have a commitment relationship with you will marry.
You are somewhere between a friendship and a committed relationship. It just simply means there is no middle of the road.
In the meantime, I will allow our friendship to be a bit more.
I will cook him dinner, cuddle on the couch, hold his hand, do things for him (like his laundry), be his buddy, run his errands, and so on because one day, he will realize what a great catch I am. If he was really interested in a committed relationship you would have known it.
How about the trips home to see the parents, disclosure of personal information, and staying over-night at each others home?
Of course there are questions and comments from friends: “When are you guys going to get serious and make a real commitment?
You are trusting the Lord for your friendship and where it might lead.
Proverbs 3:5-6 Proverbs 3:5-6Trust in the Lord and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture.
From my own experience, I think being alone is so hard that people are willing to take anything beyond a friendship (hopefully without having sex) to get their needs met.These are the times you have to learn to guard your heart.Now, like the previous paragraph, if you are in this friendationship for selfish reasons, that is something you have to talk with God about. If you are not headed towards a committed relationship, then share some things that need to change.SEE ALSO: Being Single and Making a Difference I know this firsthand because I have been in my own friendationship.I loved the attention I was getting: the back rubs, hand holding, tickling and touching, sitting close on the couch - plus special presents at birthdays and Christmas.